Are you in love passionately or you just want sex? Answer this: “Knowing that he/she loves me is more important to me than having sex with him/her.” Yes or No? Then follow up, filter question: “No matter where is starts, my mind always seems to end up thinking about___________.” How do you get rid of this “intrusive thinking”?
Try one of these techniques from 12-steps of AA:
(1) one day at a time: decide not to text or contact your beloved today, see what happens
(2) if you don't want to slip, don't go to slippery places: stay out of the places where you used to go to (sunken garden, library, Palma Hall, Starbucks, etc)
(3) it's the first drink that gets you drunk: avoid texting her. One text leads to another text and you multiply your miseries
(4) Think the drink through: don't think of amorous moments in the past, imagine the horrible days you had with her/him.
It takes two years to heal a broken "true love". You're like George Washington, who was in love with another man's wife: Sally Fairfax. He wrote her after 20 years of their last encounter: "nor all of them together, have been able to eradicate from my mind those happy moments, the happiest in my life, which I have enjoyed in your company."
Have you ever experienced such ineradicable love? Neil also wrote the same thing in his diary, appended to his Summerhill book.
** mula kay Prof. Gerry Lanuza, University of the Philippines Diliman
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